Dating recently separated men
The real concern was whether this guy needed time and space after the demise of his marriage. Here are the three points I’d like you to take away from this blog post: A person who hides his separation online isn’t necessarily a bad person.
He’s doing what’s practical not to scare people off.
I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.
Also, it seems that about 40% of the men who state they are divorced are actually still going through the process. That stated, I have come up to some heavy objection from both family and friends – hence I’m here.
If you find out your guy is in this situation, tell him to call you back when his marriage is OVER. I didn’t start dating in earnest for seven months post-split and when I did, there was zero chance of any reconciliation ever. If you find yourself post-split and are ready to start dating, you need to think very clearly about your motives. You must focus on you, your children, your divorce proceedings, and your life first.
The relationship might have been dead five years ago, but the paperwork is still pending. A man who says he’s ready to move on isn’t necessarily ready to move on. After all, he doesn’t even know if he is or if he isn’t.
Because of these contradictions, you have to do a reality check and assess whether a) he’s invested in you as a long-term partner, or b) whether you’re his transitional woman as he segues into single life.
They have given many examples of relationships that began quickly after a separation/break-up, so I am beginning to wonder if I am selling myself short – being too rigid.
As a dating coach/expert, what do you think of the idea of dating someone who is still in the process of divorce?
I will give you one exception here: If he has separated from his wife eons ago, the divorce is moving along at a decent pace, and the divorce just isn’t done… I had stopped all communication with him except between lawyers. Even if you manage to keep the relationship going for a long period of time, even post their divorce being final, you have now ended up with a boyfriend who has yet to deal with anything. It’s exciting and interesting to look at who is out there. That’s how you proceed as healthy as possible with the next phase of your life. Each situation is different but I’ll say at least six months.