Friend dating a bad guy
Or, sometimes the boyfriend or girlfriend may appear to be overly controlling, demanding, or demeaning.
If your friend is in a relationship that diminishes self-esteem, rather than enhancing it, pray earnestly and look for ways to build up and encourage your friend.
You said your friend has repeatedly sought you out, so first take comfort in knowing that at the very least, whatever you say to her offers her some sort of solace. I would bet that the advice you’ve given her floats closer to her conscience than you realize, that your words are not tossed on the floor with as much carelessness as you may think. If you are her friend — that is, if you want to keep this person in your life no matter how much of a tornado she brings with her — there are two options. The one that serves you better is to tell her (aren’t straightforward conversations just the most fun and so comfortable??
) that you feel unqualified to help with these kinds of problems.
It became clear to me that her own spiritual growth was suffering greatly, and I made the choice to talk to her about it.” “The words were painful for me to say and for her to hear,” Christi remembers, “and I wondered about the future of our friendship as I gently spoke my observations and feelings.” For the next few days, her friend spent some time talking with God and examining her own heart and motives.
Shortly thereafter, she broke up with her boyfriend.
When a close friend is dating someone you don’t like, what do you do?Sometimes, no matter how many ominous predictions you’re given, no matter how many cautionary tales you’re told, no matter how many words of wisdom a patient friend strings together for you over various dinners and late-night phone calls and screen-shot-analyzation sessions, you are going to do exactly what you want to do and then deal with the mess later.When you are the friend being given advice, it is very easy to feel judged, patronized, like a child, like an idiot, like a shitty person. But I think, worse than that, is to feel like you have no one to talk to.Know that if you say this and if she agrees, you revoke your “rights” to offer future unsolicited relationship opinions and advice.She may be wary to introduce you to any new partners, including the good ones, because she may think you’re jealous. I’m being a little dramatic on her behalf, but if you’re her person she tells all of this stuff to, then she might feel thoroughly lost.