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The issue of who’s to blame — that is, whether this is because feminists have done legitimately alienating things to men, or because men are unreasonably biased against feminism — is ultimately almost beside that point.
(The classes “feminist” and “men” really are too broad to reasonably settle the “who’s to blame!
So what comes clear from that correction is that, yeah — if we want to boil this down to the Oppression Olympics, I do think women have it worse than men and that America is still more centered around and gives more aggregate power to men.
But the whole point of those posts was to evade the Oppression Olympics! I’m not going to address all the criticisms raised about my posts (and me), especially not the ones that are: (a) fairly obvious misreadings (or extremely uncharitable readings) of what I said or even outright misquotes, or (b) questions that I answered at another point over the course of the 3-post essay, or (c) statements that “argh women derive some unfair benefits from the gender binary too!
(Famous German feminist Alice Schwarzer once said, “Female masochism is collaboration.” Many feminist spaces have a long tradition of excluding or marginalizing BDSM, like the Michigan Womyn’s Festival, which incidentally has a similar history with trans people.
Nine Deuce, a popular radical feminist blogger, has been known to assert that sadists are morally obligated to either repress their sadistic desires or kill themselves.
in the belief that I was writing in good faith and without saying that existing spaces alienate them. ” Sure, but that doesn’t mean I cannot listen and find myself somewhere within the discourse.But what’s especially pernicious about male privilege is that every aspect of female privilege can be trumped by male privilege.The classic example of this is that yes, I can gain “privilege” by dressing to look hot, but that “power” can instantly be taken away by a man who decides to call me a slut.In that segment, my language became especially strong: I did things like refer to men as The Oppressive Class, for instance. And so I strengthened my “nearly-militant, obviously feminist” tone, in an effort to make up for that: to make it clear that I’m still part of the fold — a feminist arguing in feminists’ interests. I agree with Toy Soldier that this may not have been the best tactic.In part this was meant as mild irony on my part, but in part it was also because my intended audience was feminists**** and I knew that feminists might take some of the things I was saying badly. In general, I try to support debating as charitably and with as reasonable a tone as possible, which is something I did not succeed at in Part 3.
I think those posts probably make more sense (as will large swaths of this one) if you know who I am, and they got linked around to so many non-regular readers that most of the audience now doesn’t. It is not my real name, because I am a sex-positive and, in particular, pro-BDSM** activist, and being all-the-way-out-of-the-closet about kink can have serious, long-term repercussions for someone’s life (the most pressing for me, right now, being employability: my immediate superiors here in Africa know about my BDSM identity, but the larger rather conservative organization sure as hell doesn’t).